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Two Things That Mattered Most in Our Homeschool

Through God’s abundant grace and His leading me to the right resources, mentors, and experiences, my (now adult!) children are equipped for academic (and social) life beyond our home. My technical job as a homeschool mom is finished, and now I feel called to share things that genuinely WORKED in our homeschool.

In just a couple of months, I will have graduated both of my children from our homeschool. One of our reasons for homeschooling was to give our children an academically consistent and sound education.

My oldest graduates from our state’s liberal arts college in May. She is a recipient of a state-funded scholarship which has received all four years. My son will be attending a private university next fall - a recipient of that institution’s highest scholarship award.

This should ENCOURAGE you! Homeschoolers are well-adjusted, bright children whose parents desire the best and seek out opportunities just for them! If you’re reading this blog, you are committed to your children’s success.

Looking back, I can see how we maintained a singular focus throughout my children’s entire homeschool years. That focus was a wonderful investment of time, energy, and resources. I want to share that focus with you.

Two Things that Mattered Most in Our Homeschool

* Just a little background: Our homeschool was a mixture of Charlotte Mason and Classical methodologies. I also believed in following my children and incorporating many unit studies. When my children were younger we did a lot of interest led learning and incorporated Charlotte Mason’s philosophies liberally. As my children went into middle and high school we participated in Classical Conversations. I believe they benefitted from both approaches.


Communication: The Mastery of Language

I recently heard a great definition of communication - the mastery of language. As I thought about it, that is EXACTLY what I wanted for my children - to master language.

The statistics about students in the United States are not encouraging. Looking at data about reading and writing is discouraging.

  • According to The Literacy Project, the average American reads at a 7th-8th grade level.

  • “Only about 27% of students measure at the proficiency level from grades four through twelve when it comes to their writing skills.” (source)

When we began homeschooling, my husband was a Software Developer - he was valued in his company because he had excellent communication skills; he could walk into a client site and speak to a customer’s needs. There was a dire need for professionals who could COMMUNICATE effectively.

We knew communication had to be a focus in our homeschool. But how did we practically go about that - over 12 years of schooling?

The skill of being an effective communicator comes down to the mastery of two distinct subjects - reading and writing. As I’ve observed my children throughout their high school and college careers, I’m thankful we were led to pursue these skills above all others.

Reading in the Homeschool

  • Read aloud ALL THE TIME! I was blessed to have children who quickly learned and wanted to be read to. (In fact, my blog post Why You Shouldn’t Teach Them to Read, has generated a bit of controversy since I published it in 2016.) If your children are growing up in a literature-rich environment, most of them will learn to read independently. Reading aloud is the single best thing you can do to build competent communicators.

  • The more my children heard me reading aloud, the more they could speak well. They began to use words I used in our read-alouds. Without them knowing it, they parroted beautiful language! Over many years they became articulate young adults who have lovely conversations with you, stand up and read the scriptures in church, or offer a defense of a particular argument in a college class.

  • The more my children read aloud TO ME, the more they learned to read with emotion and clarity. My youngest is 18 and a senior - I still require him to read aloud during our Morning Time. It has proven invaluable.

Resources during the Elementary Years:

  • The Well-Trained Mind - This was the first homeschool book I read, and I credit it with getting me on the correct course. Although we would become more eclectic homeschoolers, many of the principles I learned in this book served our homeschool well.

  • First Language Lessons - quick, simple, practical lessons that are precisely what the title says - first language lessons. “First Language Lessons Level 1 uses copy work, narration, picture study, and other classical techniques to develop language ability.”

  • The Story of the World - although this is a history curriculum, it goes along nicely with First Language Lessons and exposes children to rich literature and history. My children loved the audio, which fueled a love of reading. It features Jim Weiss, the master storyteller. The more they listened to his storytelling, the more they craved. This all set the stage for an affection for beautiful things!

  • Sonlight Reading Lists - As I began to piece together activities for my young children, I knew we needed beautiful books. Sonlight provided lists of books that were from a Christian worldview and of the highest quality.

  • Ambleside Online - Again, I went to Ambleside to find reading lists!

  • Five in a Row - I loved choosing many of the FIAR books and using them for the spine of our week. We often had book dinners for our favorite books.

  • Word Journals - My oldest especially enjoyed doing this. A fancy journal, colored pens - and off she went. I asked her to creatively record words (and definitions) she didn’t know.

Writing Instruction in the Homeschool

Charlotte Mason said, “If we could believe it, composition (writing) is as natural as jumping and running to children who have been allowed the due use of books.” (Home Education p. 247)

I found this to be entirely true. When my children first started to write their own simple stories and keep their journals, their writing was very sophisticated for children their age. Why? They had been immersed in beautiful language and naturally imitated it. That being said, here are the resources we used to refine their writing:

Writing Resources in The Homeschool:

  • Writing With Ease - I used this with my oldest child during the elementary years. It had a lot of narration, copy work, and dictation. Simple and beautiful.

  • IEW - Because we were in Classical Conversations/Essentials with my youngest, writing instruction for him began in fourth grade. I watched his writing flourish during this time. (Take a look at a presentation my son gave - he wrote a paper and presented as Ronald Regan - in fourth grade. IEW is quite structured and rigorous, but if you follow the program I believe it helps children become excellent writers. This time also included intensive grammar instruction, which was invaluable!

  • The Lost Tools of Writing - Both of my children used this program in the upper levels of CC Challenge (7th-10th grade for both of them). This was the perfect follow-up to IEW - it is for students who “already have a relatively solid understanding of grammar and sentence structure and who have at least a rudimentary amount of writing experience – and, most importantly, who are ready to think for themselves.”

  • Advanced Placement Literature & Composition - 11th Grade - Both of my children took this class online through HSLDA Academy. Taking it during the 11th grade helped them work on their writing while they were also getting ready to apply to college and write essays. This was a challenging class, but I felt it was essential to have an outsider teach and critique my children's writing! (And - if their score on the AP exam was high enough, they could receive college credit.) Additionally, doing well on an AP exam gives our homeschool students a measure of credibility when colleges look at their transcripts!

Diagramming sentences is well worth the effort!

Bonus Homeschool Skill: Speaking


Another fantastic investment made was speaking/peforming in front of others.

Being in Classical Conversations ensured my children had weekly opportunities to present in front of others. When I watch them now - conversing with adults - they are articulate, organized, and maintain eye contact. They aren’t flustered when someone puts them on the spot. They can defend essential ideas.

My children like to say I “voluntold” them often for reading the lessons during church. This was wonderful practice!

One other thing: piano recitals gave my children a healthy amount of stress performing in front of others. The preparation and feeling of accomplishment surrounding competitions and recitals helped them so much!


The mastering of language was our focus throughout all of the homeschool years. Looking back, I can now see so clearly how all of the reading, writing, diagramming, presenting - and yes, sometimes prodding - paid off in spades!


I’d love to hear about any resources you have used - or any questions you might have. Leave me a comment below!



You might also like:

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Fostering The Lost Art of Letter Writing in Children

Do you have a box of letters you treasure?

I do. It is a wooden box tucked away in my closet with precious words from family, friends, and many who have been important to me over the years.

I treasure these letters. The wisdom, love, and memories contained in each of them is a gift to me.

What makes a handwritten letter so special?

Lots of things.... the time spent writing the letter, the treasure of someone's handwriting who is important to you, the actual information in the letter, and simply knowing someone cared enough to write to you.

In our age of fast-paced communication and busy-ness, that art of simply sitting, sharing, and CARING has been lost.

Through fostering the lost of art of letter writing in our children, we have an opportunity to restore a degree of humanity to our world.

Fostering the Lost Art of Letter Writing in Children

Five Ways to Inspire Letter Writing in Children

 

1. Ask older family members to write to your children

The "Greatest Generation" is slowly slipping away. These older people have so much to offer our children. 

Your children's grandparents and great-grandparents have so many stories to tell, and so much wisdom to impart. Many times all you have to do is simply ASK THEM to share it with your children.

Ask an older family member to write your child a letter. Specifically, have this family member request a RESPONSE from the child (nothing like a little guilt, right?!?). 

You would be AMAZED at what our children will do when an older person asks them - when they know it's particularly important to a grandparent or great-grandparent. 

2. Foster a relationship with an older person in your church/community

We've come to know a kind older woman in church who has a spectacular life story. We would have NEVER known this had we not taken the time to get to know her.

One particular Sunday we asked her to go out to lunch with us after church. From that day on she has been writing my daughter letters. These letters are filled with encouragement, compliments, advice, and scripture. 

After my daughter sent the first one in return, our sweet friend just GUSHED about how much she loved receiving handwritten letters. Now the letters are a regular occurrence.

The results are two-fold:  these two letter writers now feel valued, appreciated, and useful; and I've seen my daughter SLOW DOWN and take time to write to her friend about deep things in her life. 

I purchased Always First Class: The Art of Personal Letters, to help my daughter come up with ideas and inspiration for her letter writing. 

 

3. Form a letter writing group

A sweet mom in our homeschool group began a creative worship arts Bible study with our high school girls this year. (She took her inspiration from the book GraceLaced: Discovering Timeless Truths Through Seasons of the Heart.)

They have done many things, but the best have been hand lettering, calligraphy - and LETTER WRITING.

She provided the girls with basic lettering instructions, pretty stationary, and everyone's address in the group. Then, she challenged them to write letters to each other over the Christmas holidays and gave prizes based on who had written the most letters.

What fun it was to see letters in the mailbox from my daughter's friends - addressed with beautiful handwriting, and containing heartfelt messages. 

I'm so grateful to this mom for teaching the girls to SLOW DOWN, appreciate things of beauty, CREATE things of beauty, and then share those gifts with others.

A handwritten letter is a thing of beauty our children can share with someone else!

 

4. Find a pen pal

For our younger children, finding a pen pal can be a GREAT way to practice letter writing. 

It can be as simple as going to one of your favorite groups on Facebook (I happen to like Equipping Homegrown Learners!) and inquiring if anyone's child would like to be a pen pal with yours.

If you're looking for others ways to find pen pals, this article about How to Find a Pen Pal for Your Child is super helpful.

Many of the books listed at the end of this post are also helpful to inspire your children when writing their pen pals.

 

5. Model letter writing

Mamas, so much of what we desire for our children can first be modeled! 

Do you take the time to write letters? Do you require your children to write thank you letters when they receive a gift, or after they have attended a party at someone's home?  Do YOU write thank you letters alongside of them?

Keep a supply of pretty stationery and writing supplies on hand and use them - invite your child to sit with you and use them, too.

 


Books to Inspire Letter Writing

The Forever Letter: Writing What We Believe For Those We LoveWrite Back Soon!: Adventures in Letter WritingHappy Mail: Keep in touch with cool & stylish handmade snail mail!Snail Mail: Rediscovering the Art and Craft of Handmade CorrespondenceThe Art of the Personal Letter: A Guide to Connecting Through the Written WordFirst Year Letters (Mrs. Hartwells classroom adventures)Dear Mr. HenshawDear Mr. Blueberry (Aladdin Picture Books)Sincerely Yours: Writing Your Own Letter (Writer's Toolbox)Yours Truly, GoldilocksLetters from RifkaDear Mrs. LaRue: Letters from Obedience School (LaRue Books)

 


Supplies to Inspire Letter Writing

Note Cards - Little Buddies Greeting Cards for Kids to Color, Trace Letters and Practice Writing - Eco-friendly Stationery for Children - 100% Recycled Note Cards with Envelopes - Blank InsideGirls Wavy Ginham Kids Stationery, 10 Pack w/Stickers & PenSCStyle 32 Cute Lovely Kawaii Special Design Writing Stationery Paper with 16 Navy Style EnvelopesBlue Dragonfly Stationery Set (Boxed Stationery)Watercolor Birds Stationery Set (Boxed Stationery)96-Pack Vintage Stationery Paper - Antique Style Paper - Perfect for Writing Poems, Lyrics and Letters - Cream - 8.5 x 11 Inches72 Pcs Vintage Letter Paper in 8 Different Cute Design, Antique Style Paper, Writing Stationery Paper Pad (White + Light Gold + Khaki)Kraft Paper Envelopes and Writing Stationery Paper Letter Set, Yoption 50 Pack Old Fashioned Brown Kraft Paper Envelopes and 56 Sheet Writing Stationery Paper, With 20 Stickers (Envelopes+ Paper)Samyo Creative Romantic Stamp Maker Classic Old-Fashioned Style Brass Color Wax Seal Sealing Stamp Vintage Antique Alphabet Initial Letter Set - (Letter M)

 


Do you have a letter-writer in your house?

Do you feel we've lost this art of communication over the past few generations? 

I'd love to know your thoughts in the comments below!