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Why Homeschooling is a Necessity and Not a Choice!

When our family began homeschooling in 2008 I considered us fortunate to have a CHOICE in my children’s education. Had we left our then 8-year-old in her current school I think things would have been fine - not great, but fine.

Our reasons for abandoning the ideal of public school were many, but we didn’t feel an URGENCY to leave her current elementary school. In fact, we had waffled back and forth with our decision for over a year.

In the nearly fifteen years that have passed since then so much has changed in our world, and so much of what has been going on in public schools for many years is beginning to make its way onto the radar of the average American parent.

Parents - homeschooling is no longer an option, I believe it is a NECESSITY.

Why Homeschooling is a Necessity and not a Choice

Some of you don’t want to hear this.

Some of you believe you have bought a home in the best school district and this protects your children. It doesn’t.

Some of you send your children to a “Christian” school and believe this protects your children. It doesn’t.

Some of you may find it easier to tell yourself “not at my child’s school”.

In truth, there are no guarantees when it comes to our children’s education.

And I know many of you will say “Well, not everyone can homeschool and not everyone SHOULD homeschool, either.” I don’t debate this statement. I’m not advocating for abolishing public schools or forcing people to homeschool, but I will ALWAYS advocate for those who are willing and able (which is many more people than you would think) to home-educate their children.

If you get anything out of this post, let it be this:

THE ONE WAY to control your children’s education and the influences they have in their formative years is to bring them home and educate them yourself! Stop complaining about your schools or turning your back on what is going on in them; educate your children yourself!


Schools Are NOT Built for Children

Schools are not built for the children who attend them. They are built for the adults who work in them. This is a simple fact I learned when I was working on my Master’s Degree in Educational Leadership and Administration. My favorite professor told us this often.

It’s sad, isn’t it?

This single fact should be enough to make you homeschool your children.

Schools are controlled by teachers’ unions, textbook companies, bureaucrats in state capitals who are far removed from the classroom, and a host of other entities.

Even your beloved private school has controlling interests - board politics, church politics, and more.

If you really look at them, schools are a sterile, unnatural place for any age child. Looking more like prisons than inspiring places of learning, it’s all about how we can move the most children as quietly and efficiently as possible throughout a system that cares NOTHING for them.

Why Homeschooling is a Necessity and Not a Choice

There is no better way to beat a love of learning and individuality out of a child than to stick them in a building, force them all to work towards the same objectives and underpay the well-meaning teachers who are supposed to make sense of the mess.

If 2020 taught working adults anything it was that they liked working at home! Don’t you think children would thrive better at home, too?


Parents, Put Your Children FIRST

Here’s something else you don’t want to hear: parents need to start putting their children first. It is NOT the government’s job to provide your children with an education. You did not give birth to a ward of the state.

Massachusetts passed the first compulsory school laws in 1852. New York followed the next year, and by 1918, all American children were required to attend at least elementary school. That means we are only ONE HUNDRED YEARS into this public education experiment, and it is NOT going well.

I recently created an Instagram reel - 4 things people assume about me as a homeschooling mom. It was quite popular because so many homeschool parents could relate. Current homeschooling parents aren’t superheroes, we aren’t independently wealthy, we aren’t gifted with tons of patience, and we don’t come with an encyclopedic knowledge of every single thing our children need to know.

What we DO have is a fervent desire to make our children’s education MATTER - and we’ve all decided to make the necessary sacrifices. We have found that by putting our children FIRST - and not considering them as a distraction or detour from our dreams or career - we are reaping a harvest and experiencing blessings beyond our wildest dreams.

We are living in an entitled world that wants to tell people (women especially!) that they can have it ALL - but I am here to tell you that our society is suffering because of that lie that has been perpetuated since the feminist movement took hold in our country.

Do You Want Conformists or World-Changers?

Home education is necessary because we need radical change.

Because of our reliance on public education, we are now seeing a society of people who are unable to think for themselves. We see people who can repost others’ opinions and who can support the latest causes without knowing how to articulate their OWN thoughts about them.

When I witnessed my daughter being “standardized” in the third grade I asked myself if that was all I wanted for her. Would my husband and I accept standards for her that were below her level of capability? Would it be best for her to go along with the masses through high school?

Or, did we want to educate her ourselves and nurture things like compassion, generosity, and selflessness - things that all run COUNTER to what traditional schools are about.

As we’ve watched both of our children move through their education at home, I can see young people that don’t care what others think of them, and young people who are willing to think FAR outside the box. They aren’t perfect, but at the end of the day, I can say that my husband and I did our level best to equip them for life.

Why Homeschooling is a Necessity and Not a Choice


We Must Fight For Beauty

Our children deserve a BEAUTIFUL education.
They deserve nature walks, slow mornings with beautiful books being read aloud to them, time to listen to and savor beautiful music and art, and abundant time and space to be immersed in the Word of God.

There is so much beauty in our world - beauty that is increasingly under attack. Or, beauty that goes unrecognized because so much time is spent focusing on evil.

“Children are often called our greatest resources as if they were deposits of tin. But a child is not (just as an adult is not) a level in an economic machine, a vehicle for commerce, a revenue source for the all-powerful state. He is a human being, made in the image and likeness of God - made, that is, for goodness and truth and beauty.” ~ Anthony Esolen

Why Homeschooling Is a Necessity and Not a Choice

There simply isn’t the time to cultivate beauty in a traditional school environment. Cultivation of beauty requires relationship, time, and most importantly - faith in God who is the source of all beauty. God is under attack in our public schools.

Why in the world would we - as Christians, send our children into an institution that is fighting to EXCLUDE HIM?

Our Children Deserve to Be Safe

As saddened as I was by the recent school shooting in Texas, I wasn’t surprised. Unfortunately, schools have become targets in our fallen world.

I had just begun my teaching career when the Columbine shooting occurred - and it has seemed to escalate since then. One day in 2005 (the year we pulled my daughter out of public school) I was driving home from taking her to school. I was stopped by police at a roadblock in our area - they were searching for a fugitive on the loose. They had also locked down my daughter’s school for the remainder of the day.

I got home and wondered why in the WORLD I wasn’t homeschooling her? She could have been home with me. Safe. Learning.

If you feel like the public schools aren’t a safe place for your children I urge you to TAKE THEM OUT. Your children are only young once, and they don’t have time to wait for the adults “in charge” to fix the school safety problem.


Parents, don’t let fear, peer pressure, family pressure, or any other reason deter you from homeschooling your children. You know them the best. You love them the most. You will find abundant resources for home educating your children and while it won’t always be perfect, it will always be YOUR choice for YOUR children.



I would love to have a respectful conversation about this article in the comments.

Do you think homeschooling is more of a NECESSITY now? Why or why not?

Why Homeschooling is a Necessity and Not a Choice

2020: The Year of the Homeschooler

2020 has not been “normal”.

That is not fake news. It’s just a fact.

As a homeschooling parent, however, I contend my family had much more normalcy than the non-homeschooling family down the street. We had a huge layer of normal that so many weren’t as fortunate to have. I totally get that.

2020 was the year homeschoolers didn’t look quite so weird anymore.

(It’s about time.)

Please understand: I don’t wish a year like 2020 on any of us ever again. I pray 2020 brings health, peace, and safety to our world. I pray all of the children in this world who have been so disrupted by 2020 will have the chance to return to routine and safety in 2021.

As I look back on the year, however, I see a big victory: As a long-time home educating parent, I feel just a tiny bit (well maybe more than a tiny bit) vindicated by the educational events of 2020.

Let’s just proclaim 2020 “The Year of the Homeschooler”.

2020: The Year of the Homeschooler - 10 Things The World Learned from Homeschoolers This Year

Hopefully, the world has learned something about homeschooling in 2020 - notice I did not say “Public School at Home” or “Virtual School”.

In March I asked people to please stop homeschooling their children. So many parents tried to jump right into schooling at home and this change was hard on kids. I encouraged parents to love their children, read to them, and take time to form connections and have fun. Homeschooling doesn’t happen overnight.

Here we are at the end of the year, and I want to review some things we learned about Home Education in 2020.

Maybe decision-makers for public education can take some of the lessons learned from homeschoolers and apply them to improving the state of education in the coming years.

2020: The Year of the Homeschooler

Before we start - a disclaimer: there are GOOD BAD EXAMPLES everywhere - in every kind of schooling model. I’m sure you can pick apart each of these 10 things based on a homeschooler “you used to know”. Well, I want you to know my homeschool tribe. They would change your mind in a heartbeat!.

10 Things We Learned About Homeschooling in 2020

  • Homeschooling Saves Time

    Consider all of the time children spending getting to and from school. Then, once at school, consider all of the time spent waiting in line moving to and from classes, the bathroom, and various other places.

    School teaches children how to WAIT. And, it’s not a valuable kind of waiting, either. It’s just waiting for no good reason.

    When children are schooled at home all of that wait time is eliminated, meaning school is done in a much shorter period of time - leaving so much time for other more creative pursuits!

  • Homeschooling Is Safer

    This is self-explanatory. At home, children are at less risk of getting sick. They are less vulnerable to school violence. There aren’t bullies in homeschool.

  • Homeschooling Means You Have CONTROL Over Your Children’s Education

    This is a BIG ONE. I have been hearing multiple news stories about what schools are going to do to get children “up to speed” again because they have fallen so far behind because of the virus.

    Who really defines what is ahead and behind? It’s different for each child.

    And, when you homeschool you can move at your own pace. Some seasons will allow you to accelerate, and other seasons call for a focus on family and life skills. As homeschoolers we get to decide at what pace we move and this gives us CONTROL over our children’s education - not to mention the obvious control we have over the content of their education.

  • Homeschooling Does NOT Require a Teaching Certificate

    I am overjoyed to know many parents who have been empowered to teach their own children!

    The qualifications to teach your children at home are desire, love, and a willingness to learn alongside your children - to model learning. In fact, sometimes a teaching degree is a stumbling block to homeschooling because teaching as you would in a public school DOES NOT WORK in a homeschool setting!

  • Homeschoolers are Well Adjusted

    When the virus hit full force in March I believe homeschoolers were more able to handle the change in schooling - but I think there was also the misconception that homeschoolers didn’t miss out on anything because of the virus.

    That couldn’t be more false. My homeschooler was missing his activities, his weekly homeschool group - he missed his friends. It was a hard few months.

    I contend, however, that because we had been doing life completely together with him that we were able to dialogue about our feelings and adjust more easily to the changes taking place.

    Many homeschoolers I know are also happy being more solitary - in a world that is so driven by being busy, homeschoolers have the luxury of being more comfortable with quiet and less activity.

  • Homeschoolers are Innovators

    In addition to being well-adjusted I also noticed that homeschoolers could “bob and weave” quite easily - in fact, the public school was often looking to US for help with education (now isn’t that funny?!?). As people scrambled to figure out Zoom and online classes, many homeschoolers were already there.

    Homeschoolers know how to take a chunk of time and fill it without step by step directions from a teacher. Interest Led Learning is the backbone for many homeschoolers, which (when you really think about it) is essentially individual innovation in education.

  • Homeschoolers are Inclusive

    As the virus hit, I witnessed so many homeschoolers reaching out to help others. Our local Facebook groups were a wonderful place for advice and help. People were sharing resources, letting people know about homeschool groups, and so much more.

    I’ve found homeschoolers to be a welcoming, supportive group - and what better role models do we need for our children in such a contentious year as 2020?

  • Homeschooling Requires A LOT!

    I wrote a series, Homeschool Requires, a couple of years ago. As I revisited the series I was once again nodding my head in agreement with myself! Check out each of these posts - and there’s an audio component to them, too.

    Homeschool Requires Commitment

    Homeschool Requires Consistency

    Homeschool Requires Love

    Homeschool Requires Courage

  • Homeschooling is a Movement Full of Creative, Dedicated Families

    Many homeschool families live on one income so they can homeschool. Many homeschool families run small businesses so they can spend more time with their family.

    Homeschool families have to get creative with time and resources to accomplish their goals.

    Homeschool families also don’t take NO for an answer and will do whatever it takes to educate their children at home. They’ve most likely had experiences with the public school that taught them they never want to go there again.

  • Homeschooling WORKS!

    I’ve received so many emails from parents telling me they are amazed at how well homeschooling is working for their children. After an initial period of adjustment, they have noticed that all of a sudden their child has learned to read - or maybe their special needs child is happier and learning more.

    As people have been forced into homeschooling it doesn’t seem so strange anymore, and they see the many reasons homeschooling is beneficial for children.

I hope we don’t ever have a year of the homeschooler again - well, at least not like 2020.

And, I pray the future of homeschooling will be bright and maybe not quite so weird anymore!

Thoughts?

I’d love for you to leave me a comment below about your experience with homeschooling in 2020.

2020: The Year of the Homeschooler - Why Homeschoolers Thrived in 2020 and what others (hopefully) learned from us