Why can't we just let children be CHILDREN?

Why can't we just let them be little?

There are many ways in which our public schools fail to educate children. We are failing to cultivate wonder in children.

My heart sank this week as I read about a kindergarten gun control walkout in Connecticut.

What has the world come to when we use five and six-year-old children as political pawns?

Have we become so SELFISH that we are willing to sacrifice our precious children on the altar of "making a point"?

It appears so.

Let Them Be Little: The Crime of Vanishing Childhood

The irony in this is that the more we remove "childhood" from our children's lives, the less capable adults they will become. When we force our children to bypass childhood we fail to realize the detrimental effects this will have on them in later life.

Parents are fooling themselves if they believe schools are going to preserve and nurture childhood.

I was once among a large number of trusting parents who believed the public schools had my children's best interest at heart - or maybe I should simply say the interests of the public schools are misguided. As I watched my kindergarten student participate in "Just Say No" week (the anti-drug campaign) - when she had no idea of what drugs even were, I wondered why political agendas were part of her school day.

I was so conditioned to just ACCEPT these things as part of the public school's duty to children. I didn't question what the public schools did. They were the AUTHORITY on education. We just sent our children to school - the teachers had their job and I had mine.

Then one day I started getting an uneasy feeling about all of this. A friend loaned me some homeschooling books. The principal at my child's school didn't appreciate me asking so many questions about the WHYS of what they did. The idea of homeschooling began to take a foothold in my mind.

Finally, we abandoned the ideal of public school and decided to just let our children be LITTLE.

Three Ways Homeschooling Lets Our Children Be LITTLE

Homeschooling gives children time to discover the world.

Children learn best through DISCOVERY.

Plopping them in a sterile environment with worksheets and prescribed activities leaves no time for a child to explore and wonder.

If we are trying to teach our children about birds - and most of all, how to APPRECIATE THE BEAUTY of birds - setting up a bird feeder and observing beautiful birds is of much more value than reading about birds in a textbook. As small children are going about their daily work of PLAYING, they may stop at intervals to admire the birds at the feeder. They will ask their mother, "What bird is this?", which can lead to discovery, which makes a memory, which then cements that knowledge.

“Of the evils of modern education few are worse than this - that the perpetual cackle of his elders leaves the poor child not a moment of time, nor an inch of space, wherin to wonder - and grow.”

— Charlotte Mason, Volume 1, p. 18

A no-twaddle bird study put together by the parent is of infinite value and allows our children to learn in an unrestricted environment. It challenges them to learn more, builds an appreciation of all things beautiful, and serves as a building block in a lifetime of knowledge of the natural world around them.

Giving our children permission to indulge in these things is a gift.

Homeschooling gives children time with their parents and siblings.

How very old-fashioned and un-evolved of me to suggest children should be home with their mother (or father) all day!

It certainly isn't in vogue to suggest the family be the primary unit of socialization and support, is it?

I have seen first-hand how happy and healthy children are when they have the security and being with family all day. Time with family builds security, self-confidence, and happiness.

This time at home with parents and siblings allows our children the space they need to PLAY, EXPLORE, and LEARN.

How much more valuable is a walk in the neighborhood with the family than sitting through a "Just Say No to Drugs" presentation?

We love to use the buzz words "quality time", but I would argue that TIME with our children is important - not just set aside time we deem as "quality", but giving all of our time to our children in their youngest years.

I cannot measure the learning that took place on our walks (especially in the fall) when my children were young. I look back on this now and am so thankful we just LET THEM BE LITTLE!

Jump in leaf piles. Get muddy. Collect bugs. Play make-believe baseball games by yourself in the backyard. Snuggle with mom.

Homeschooling Preserve A Child's Innocence

But they will have to function in the "real" world one day, so why are you sheltering them now?

Isn't this the most tired argument you have heard? I grow weary of hearing people say this.

I am, however, long past caring what others think about the way we educate our children.

Am I going to protect and shelter my children? YOU BET!

Elementary age children have no business:

worrying during active shooter drills
taking part in sex education
participating in political agendas
and a myriad of other things!

Childhood is virtually passed over when a child takes on so many things they aren't emotionally or physically capable of handling.

I vividly recall a day when my child was in third grade (our last year in the public schools) - there was an escaped convict on the loose in our area. They were searching cars on the main road near our home. The elementary school was locked down. I remember being so concerned about my daughter that day - I knew she would worry.

Wouldn't it have been so much easier to have had her at home - safely in my care with our doors locked and her being none the wiser - than subjecting her to worry?

I will fight tooth and nail to preserve my children's childhood and to LET THEM BE LITTLE.

“The day we fret about the future is the day we leave our childhood behind.”

— Patrick Rothfuss

If you are interested in more homeschool encouragement, please visit the page I have dedicated to that subject.

It is important to let our children be LITTLE. We owe it to them, and ultimately our society will benefit if we give our children everything they need and deserve in their younger years.

My greatest desire is to equip and encourage you in the homeschool journey. Please leave me a comment if I can help you in any way!

It's a bold statement.

Schools will always fail to educate children.

Schools are effective in many areas, but not in the area of education. Schools function as economical child care centers. They disseminate and test standardized knowledge. Schools level the playing field with relatively great ease. Schools are successful in perpetuating groupthink.

If you want your children educated, however, don't send them to school.

Nine years ago we decided to abandon the IDEAL of public school in favor of homeschool - precisely because I came to the realization the schools were never going to be able to EDUCATE my children.

This decision was not arrived at lightly. I was the product of public schools. I have degrees in education - an advanced one in Educational Leadership and Supervision. You might say I used to be heavily invested in the success of the public schools.

I want to shake people who tell me why they can't homeschool, because I know it CAN BE DONE. Our children are precious and we must stop subjecting them to substandard public education which assumes so little of them. The future of our nation depends on it - and if I may be so bold - I think we are witnessing a steady decline in our nation because of generations of adults who have been educated by increasingly failing public schools.

At the end of this post I have a suggested reading list for you. These are books that I read before and during our homeschool journey. We must be educated ourselves and articulate why we do what we do. I pray this post emboldens and encourages you!

Why Schools Will Always Fail to Educate Children

Whether you are a veteran homeschooler or just contemplating this idea of homeschooling, you need to be aware of definitions and painful truths. I will do that here today.

Before I continue, let me clarify what education means to me. Definition of a term is important, and I hope we're on the same page with this one:

Education is a process of inviting truth and possibility, of encouraging and giving time to discovery. Education is an ongoing set of social, moral and academic skills necessary for children to thrive in life.

Education is NOT obtaining a set of skills for a job. It is NOT acquiring the tools to be a productive citizen. It is SO MUCH more than that.

Reasons Traditional Schools Fail (and will Continue to Fail) to Educate Children

Schools Are Built for Adults - NOT Children

I first heard this when I was pursuing my Master's Degree in Educational Leadership and Supervision. It was a problem plaguing public schools twenty years ago, and it still plagues them today.

Consider just a few ways we construct schools and school days for adults and NOT children:

Length of School Day - Shorter school days would be met with opposition from working parents who need children taken care of while they work - yet we know shorter days are better for children.
Classroom Setup - Control is much easier for teachers when children are made to sit in cramped desks in overcrowded classrooms.
Academic Agendas - All students in a classroom follow basically the same path - for the convenience of the teacher. How in the world could one teacher create individualized education plans for 25 students in his/her classroom?
Busy Work - Teachers need to be able to keep all children "engaged" during the school day. To keep from mayhem ensuing, teacher assign busy work like word searches and crossword puzzles. UGH.
Testing - How do schools demonstrate they are performing? Test scores. Many times school funding and teacher pay are linked to test scores. Is it best for the children? No one really considers that, do they?

Schools Are Built on a Conformity/Commodity Model

The entire foundation of our American public school system (based on the Prussian model of education) began in New England in the 1850s.

Our nation needed a way to deal with increasing waves of immigrants. America needed a unified spirit and goal. The result of this was conformity.

(If you look at schools today most of them have the same physical appearance - the same as prisons. They are designed to house and control large numbers of children. Honestly, next time you drive by a school ask yourself if it looks like an appealing place to spend nearly 8 hours each day - 9 months each year.)

The goal is this: children should CONFORM to the system and children are a COMMODITY which is run through the system over the course of twelve years.

Step back and REALLY look at it. Is your child a unique child in a public school, or are they simply a cog in the wheel - a number to be counted and measured?

As we know, children are created uniquely by God. Conformity really isn't such a good thing for children if they are going to develop their abilities and talents, yet conformity is encouraged and celebrated in public schools.

Reasons Schools Fail to Educate Children

The Eight-Hour Dummies

Please forgive my crass verbiage here. The term "eight-hour dummy", however, is one that was prevalent when I was a teacher.

Simply put, if your child doesn't CONFORM, they will be given a label. This label explains why they don't FIT IN, why they don't learn the same as everyone else.This label means there is something wrong with your child and THEY must be fixed. There must be accommodations and modifications made. They might even be put in a different class of children.

These children, surprisingly enough, only have this "problem" at school - during the eight hours they are within the school walls. Once they leave the school they are just KIDS - with all of their foibles and the like. These "eight-hour dummies" are made to feel as though there is something wrong with THEM, something that warrants a label.

A side note: many "eight-hour dummies" have turned out to be some of America's greatest thinkers and innovators. Funny how that works.

In truth, the vast majority of the time, the child is just being who God created them to be. The onus should not be on the CHILD to change. They simply do not thrive in the CONFORMITY model of public education.

My heart breaks for these children - many of whom don't have an advocate at home, or whose parents actually might buy into the belief their child is flawed in some way.

We lose these students down the line. They feel "less than" or they just give up altogether. It is perhaps the greatest tragedy of our education system today.

Most Schools Are Run by the Government

It is absurd to believe a bureaucratic government can possibly make well-informed decisions about education. Even though education is a function of the states, shifting national standards (hello Common Core) impact the delivery of education in a myriad of ways.

Pesky things like money, politics, and egos come into play and once again the best interests of our children are left in the dust.

Once again, while the adults are sorting it all out, our children are growing and changing. Many times, if you seek to effect educational change in your own local school system your own children will be out of the system by the time the change is enacted.

The popular saying - "Babies won't keep" is so true. Except in this instance we should say "Students won't keep."

The Idea of "Education for All" is Just an IDEAL

The model of public education is a pie-in-the-sky ideal.

I remember the argument I received from many when we decided to leave the public schools. It always went something like this:

"If all educated and involved families abandon the public schools, what will education look like for the rest of the children? We all need to be invested in the system to make it work."

Well guess what. Here's a great response to that one: "We are not willing to sacrifice our children for an ideal. My children are too precious for me to throw them into a system and pray change will come about, or for me to waste my valuable time and energy hoping for a change."

Can you IMAGINE the frustration bubbling just below the surface of so many of our public schooled children?

THIS is Why We Homeschool

After all of the things I witnessed as a student, teacher, and parent in the public school system, it was time to go. I am beyond thankful for the opportunity to homeschool my children.

I am thankful to have been practicing my outside-the-box thinking for the past nine years. It comes in handy in so many other areas of life! The following books will be encouraging and helpful to you as you either travel down the homeschool road or contemplate taking the leap away from traditional school into homeschool.

Because my oldest is approaching college age, we've also been having interesting discussions and discoveries about going (or not going) to college, and what the value of a college education might (or might not) be. Food for thought. I've included a couple of books for this, too.